Stop Action!

The purpose of this exercise is to slow the action down between 2 people. It will prevent small arguments or statements from escalating. It gives both parties a chance to think and reflect. This exercise is most effective when both people follow all the steps.

  • Person B makes a negative or hurtful statement to person A.

  • Person A holds up his hand and says “stop action I feel__________________” 

  • Person B validates person A’s feelings by saying “I understand how you feel”

  • Person B then changes his previous statement to a positive statement.

  • Person A gives feedback to person B as to whether or not the statement was positive.

  • Person A continues to give feedback to person B until he receives a positive statement.

Once the exercise is over. Both person A and person B are advised to write down what they experienced.